It is common to attack things when a person feels bad or insecure about themselves because it makes us feel bigger and more in control. It is fallacy though, blinding one’s self. To destroy the world around one does not make one better only one who lives in a shitty place. The way to make one feel wonderful by flipping this process is to compliment the world around one’s self and then bask in the glory of your home.
In a land ruled by condescension you see shit talking seen as humor, mocking not present members seen as conversation, elitism spouted as charm and tender. People are afraid to be open, emotionally expressive, or talk in differing manners because they could and likely will be mocked. Who one has attacked or talked down to successfully creates one’s status and that is more what a person is judged and admired with than their actual qualities. The art dies, the conversation stagnates, identities become masks or blank stares.
Such a culture creates a person who does not feel power but stands in a social setting where they are atop a pyramid, teetering precariously and unhappily. To keep up this persona they must constantly find a foothold above another or create a hole in those around them. They feel itchy when they are not stepping above or on top of someone else. They are weak because they need someone else to be weak in order for them to feel good. They don’t feel real otherwise and they stack themselves with meaningless structure and goals all a hoped to make them better when they will never enjoy just being for they have created a hunger.
The well fed are those who live in bounty, a world live with abundance and meaning and dance. This is a culture of a beautiful works, appreciated flaws and flourish, indulgence and perseverance. A world where people compliment and look for things that are beautiful is one filled with great projects and enjoyed final products. Even the silliest things have fun inside them and they are treated like recess not a pain. This is the kid of culture that thrives and helps people grow who are willing to shine simply by wanting and willing to it.
In understanding what condescension truly is and the seat of where appreciation could be, one overcomes it.
