It is too true that people over react, under react, get horny out of their mind, become needlessly needy, and a slew of other emotional plagues all of which a person calls part of themselves. Our emotions are trained but are not us. They are like our thoughts or actions, motions of us that we are in control of. We can stop them, continue them, make them, or tell them they’re stupid and that they should fuck the hell off. We do not have to feel awful, happy, sustained or anything if we don’t want to. Its a capability of being human to tell an emotion to go away and believe in something else. Emotions hate being stared at and are rather obedient since they don’t exist if the host doesn’t fuel them.
We can separate from our emotions or we can tinker with them. I have learned from one group of friends that we can even call emotions foreign evil spirits and treating them like such allows one much freedom and space to grow in their own desired way; as crazy as it sounds it has many benefits and no real defects other than it sounding crazy. Stopping our train of thought can be the best way to alleviate an emotion we do not like. Feelings are the why and thoughts and are the what and how. Without a why there is not what or how and if we stop the what and/or how then we are free to look at the why and deal with it.
When I say tinkering I mean examining and using it dynamically. Look where it came from, look at what it produces, look at how it works, look where it is going and what it is related to, look what it could be used for other than its current use. Anger can be turned into physically most colloquially but it can also be turned into an example of how one does not want to feel but that one has gotten extremely intimate with and this current moment is just a lesson of where one never wants to be. It can be used as fuel to why one wants to be happy or driven or scared or loved or why one wants to be somewhere that makes them feel the opposite. Emotions do not always come logically and using them as if they were totally natural and directly apparent evidence of who we are is disregarding human free will; our decisions mean more than what randomly happens to us.
You are always in control as long as you remember that you are in control. How do you want to feel and how do you want an emotion to affect your world?
