Role Models

Find a role model for each area. Choose someone, famous or not, who can serve as a guiding star for you, in your efforts to improve in each of our areas of health, career, and relationships. Perhaps for the relationship area, you might choose a well-known relationship coach or an author who writes insightfully about relationships. (There are many great ones, and reading relationship books or relationship advice columns is a good habit to get into, generally, one I recommend.) Perhaps for the career area, you might choose someone highly-accomplished in your chosen field, whose success you’d like to emulate. Perhaps for the health area, you might select a famous athlete you admire. Of course, they don’t have to be famous — you might know individuals in your own life who have accomplished what you would like to in these areas. You can certainly choose them. (You can also choose one for our fourth category of self-work / shadow work, if you wish, but that can be a bit trickier — positive examples in that area are less obvious; tread carefully, when choosing there, but definitely have ones for our main three areas.)

Learn everything you can about your choices. Read biographies of them, if available, talk with them, if possible, study them. Learn how they think, how they move, how they talk, what their attitudes, beliefs, philosophies are, what books they read, who they admire, how they approach things, what they learned and what they did to accomplish what they have. Begin to adopt those elements that you can see will lead you to similar accomplishments. Be sure to distinguish the attitudes and approaches that are healthy from the ones that are non-optimal; you don’t have to adopt destructive patterns. But adopt the healthy ways that they have implemented in their lives, and you’ll be on a path to a successful, healthy accomplishing of your desired goals.

Peace,

Dave Roel.