No one is totally free because we are affected by one another; we are socially primped and it stays with us until we admit, understand, and rewire it. Social hierarchies form and there is a place which we feel entitled if not bound to. We leave or fight when we do not find this place socially. It develops from first our evolutionary environmental adaptation where the psyche views us in a group of 50 people for all social interactions having men be much more pyramid dominant structurally correlated and women being in a web-like structure. Next we have our family order, siblings and parents or pets or aunts or what have you. The place you found yourself as a child is the place socially you seek and expect to be in naturally. After that we find ourselves in our most preferred environment, this is purely experience based and is the optimum setting so not surely an expectation but the highest standard of comparison and a source of much irritation without confronting and realigning; for me it is where I was the best in my basketball program in high school or the nonchalant adventurer wild card of a tag crew also in high school. Most people find it correlating to clubs, friend groups, certain classes in hs but it is always the situation you have found, not being, the best of your performance creating. Next it is who you are with, in a few circles. Who you live with, work with, and hang out with. They all treat you a certain way and you find yourself being different with these groups than on your own. Now, everyone of these can be consciously challenged and a few astoundingly strong willed people do confront on every level but even the alpha’s of alphas will find themselves bent depending on their grouping. The key is to recognize who you are where you are. The next step is deciding if you can change and how.
Leaving a group is easiest while changing yourself will influx the group’s actions and treatment of you. Many people are set in stone of their opinion but will change over time with behavior where as others will immediately shift with you. Only one person can decide if they want to fight or flee and that’d be thee. But be aware, if you please. Its the greatest gift we have.
