We attract people who are like us and enjoy us being as we are. Misery loves company and angry bandwagons have an open roll call for haters but its hard to get off or get somewhere new. People with issues they don’t see are quite less than seldom forced to see those issues by the company they keep. Its not in their interest or desires and why would a person be attracted to another whom they need confront? People go to people they feel comfortable around. This creates a support blanket for bullshitting one’s self. One of the real parts of growing up, unlike cutting your hair and falling in line, is finding a realistic vantage point to see yourself from.
It is paramount that one be able to step away from their friends and judge themselves critically. Rarely do people become our friends with a new view or a harsh reality check in mind for that friendship. That’s both part of growing up and the kinship of bullshitting each other. A common and true stand of confrontation is with a lover’s confrontation to a friend’s comfort. More often will a person you fall in love with be harsh to you than a friend. Now, so often fights are just a clear sign of wasting one’s time trying to fit something that does not fit. But whatever makes you break may be completely different than what we call it. Dissent from our normal walk of life staggers when trying to hold onto a silly dream of repeating ourselves. Life must move on for that is the nature of existence henceforth we must change and hopefully grow.
Being able to clearly distinguish aimless and unfitting fighting from poignant critique is an amazing balancing act. The tugs of one army scream the same prizes of the other but neither pull is going forward for this tight rope. Always must we answer to ourselves, not our friends or lovers or bosses as an empty head and voice is a wasted one that receives just as it gives; emptiness.
You deserve to be happy but only you can actually define what that means. The world always holds more for you than the ground you currently stand and defend or stand to burn. A battle is always waiting as is happiness but where you intend to go next must be planned out for your best interest without your best comfort in mind. Finding the difference between those two feels maddening only when the wrong side is pulling too hard; that can be either side. Change is normal, do not be afraid but look forward before speaking up for your own happiness. And you must otherwise the words spoken are words broken for meaning.
Trust no one, because everyone is bias. Judge what they say though, not them as being. People can change and people do not want to be bad.
