Jealousy, resentment, grudge holding are fabulous ways to create pain for yourself without knowing you are only hurting yourself. If you resent someone for being spoiled and ignoring the rest of the world then you are currently creating an emotional state focused at them instead of being attentive to the rest of the world. BAM, you suck worse. Hating takes effort and whenever you are doing it, you are wrong unless you want pain. Fight fire with water, not fire.
People are mad at you, but not really, because you act like they are and your guilt paired with irritating suspicions towards them and generally tense manner cause them to appear closer to and then your prophecy comes true. People are simple, they treat you like you act.
You’re not getting enough _____ insert shit here___ from people. Respect, love, admiration, attention, connection, whatever you want. If it is from others, you must first like yourself and allow yourself to receive it, then be present. Being petty and wanting detracts via begging and neediness. Its almost as if you present yourself as a thief who has had too much and nobody wants to help you. Give yourself the emotion you want from others first. Then it will appear naturally from them. Do not beg.
You have wronged someone. Let them down, or not done well enough. OK, so get the fuck over the past and start moving the car forward. The longer one stays in that emotional place, the longer it becomes real. You are creating it by worrying about it and losing your true self.
If you dismiss another’s pain, you are hurting them and just as bad as those who have hurt them. WRONG!! Understanding someone’s pain is how you heal it but it is not yours to fix. You cannot fix someone until they have become broken and to treat them as broke without their consent, meaning they have decided without coercion or instruction to ask for help. You changing the tone is helping them.
Someone is mad at you and you should just leave it be. That is a state of fear and resting in the past. You can change because change is natural, it is happening as we speak and won’t stop. THE CHANGE CANNOT STOP, THATS THE UNIVERSE EXISTING DOOD. Take a step in the direction you would like to go and move out of shitland.
Guiltiness is cancer that you are funding. When you think you are guilty, it shows and that is the strongest evidence people respond to. Playing a victim is not an alternative action either but another route down YOUREBEINGSTUPID lane. You are not bad, your intentions are good, and you will be good. Let go of irrelevant evil that you don’t want around.
Someone else is in pain so you should be too. Or another person has a lack or damage or is restricted so you should be too. To relate and recognize another’s pain helps them feel real, feel understood and able to move. But to force it upon yourself is detrimental empathy. It hurts you and them.
