When we have social goals with humans we have social expectations. To meet these expectations we must make sure the people we’re being social with are on the same page as us, otherwise we shall experience disappointment. So many connections go unmade, relationships never started, reaped or bloomed. Starting a relationship may seem easy to some and impossible for others yet we have all seen them done flawlessly and can imagine them going famously. This piece of brain talent needs to be highlighted and examined to have a good time with folks instead of head flicks. To have a good relationship one must give the other person THE proper space for them to grow and express themselves. That one must also show they are comfortable and encouraging to such behavior and the heading its adventure has eyes for. And we must have patience together and for each other while reinforcing this relationship’s fine points and put a pretty shine on it or it won’t ever bloom.
Who do you want to fall in love with you? Really, I mean that. Think about who you want to fall in love with and how would they do it. If you don’t know the role they could place for you to fall for em, then odds are better that a hobo will give me a winning lotto ticket. You must know this and then give a person the space to express this. Allowing a person the space, the chance, the right lighting to express themselves is tantamount. Because a relationship is always a big thing even if its a small relationship. Create the atmosphere and conversational tone where they telling you about their actions and abilities making them that role you want to see them play as real. If a person doesn’t feel comfortable telling you that they work in a circus then you’re definitely never going find out nor will you be able to start your space circus without any great acrobats! Create the conversation that asks them and makes them in charge as well as comfortable with talking about that part of themselves.
To engage with a person, or one role of a person to get to shine, you must be the sort of asshole they would act that way, with. You need to play the black for there to be white EG without someone playing captain hook holding his sword out there will come no Peter Pan wielding his dagger. So if you want someone to behave a certain way then you must be the kind of person which THAT person would engage with. If you want a business investor to start talking about throwing their money around then you must be an expert in some financially viable and soon to blow up field. Without that expert present you may never have random Joe Shmoe start playing the role of someone with money to burn. Be the person that the person you want to see, would want to talk to. Once you have figured out who exactly you want to meet, get in their head and say, “who do they want to meet?”. Then start the conversation as that person such that you are presenting the right foot for the dance to start with.
Being inspirational is extremely easy. To be convoluted and try to hard is not any way to get a person moving and excited. It’s always a simple spark from the darkest and therefore most calm, confident of places. Believing in greatness and showing that you’re ready for it, wanting, is the easiest way to get it out of people. We as humans want to please each other socially. And we as people also want to play the highest role available. If you show that you are ready for your socks to be rocked and interested then many people will jump out at you with their sock rockers cocked and loaded. But never be desperate. About fucking anything, that is a sign that you can’t handle it. Know that it will come as sure as hitting a light-switch will turn on when you hit it. Then be patient and do not waver in the face, sound, or sign of failure. The more one reacts to failure the more sure failure is that you need it. The more you react to it like it’s in the wrong place and your greatness is coming then the more sure the greatness will show up.
Check yo’self; is the person you believe yourself to be in coherence with the presentation you are giving. Often our actions can misrepresent us because we become careless and absent-minded. When so caught up in thoughts, actions become rushed, unimportant, sloppy and not becoming of how we see ourselves. One must uphold themselves to their own standards. Being absent from the moment is the biggest sin as it is a crime against one’s self. This is your show, your spotlight, where ever you being is for you and to put up a crap performance is to make your life a shit show. Get into the spotlight and realize, this is always your limelight because it’s you. Nobody else’s opinion is ever anything but second place at absolute best.
