The words a person uses shift relevancy and role from person to person. Connotation and preference change with the individual so to expect, and in any way need, approval or words from another person to make your day complete, is illogical and unfit. Where one person can call your work excellent another can just say,”oh” and that work can be of the same quality in either place. How we read one’s words greatly affects us and if we realize that one person is only capable of that Oh then we can allow ourselves the space to be pleased and create more great things in a day of perpetual productivity and joy without being derailed by our own misunderstanding and inappropriate sentiments at another’s expressions.
Which words we use create emotion and conversational heading. My friend texted me yesterday,”We’re gunna kill it” about going to disneyland. This didn’t make any sense but it was so positive and upbeat that my following thought groups were inspired with some similar vigor. Speaking in upbeat ways creates upbeat thoughts. Saying shitty things creates a shitty conversation. If someone is speaking Japanese to you, you’re not going to begin singing in Italian to them, right? Same principle except in your own mind and your own words, you can whip out the Opera! Using cool phrases that you like and which sound neat or exciting to you about mundane and normal things in the everyday droll creates a new shine and pushes a different outlook. We’re going on an adventure today! We shall conquer this. That is the most stupendous undercover princess outfit I have ever seen! All phrases that create the conversation where greatness is coming. All just a way of framing one event so that the next step must logically be incredible.
Reframing a situation is not a difficult thing to do but a stepping outside the box. It is easy to get caught in just saying upbeat things and not believing them. It is also HOW you say them and the frequency with which they are said. I used to hear the phrase,”Namaste” and the folks who spoke it did so with reverence. My church going friends used to say God bless you and when it was new they seemed to mean it. But when a phrase becomes said so repetitively it loses its heart, purpose and worth. So change up the phrase and mean it when you say it! Make sure to discover and create new ones. Reframing a situation can have the same sloth where it becomes knee jerk-reaction to start forcing yourself to call a situation “nice”. It also takes refreshing and different approaches to have any effect. When you say it, say it like you mean it and when you change your outlook do so in a way that is real and relevant to the immediate.
There is always a way to turn any situation into a come up. No where is too low for a comeback and the biggest as well as first step is believing in it. The next is looking and speaking. Being and doing will follow
