Obsession and comfortable regularity are bad things humans fall into normally that fuck them regularly. We allow ourselves to be complacent instead of vocalizing what we feel is right, best, and what we want. Settling for something being “good enough” is giving up and cutting ourselves off to more options in a bigger world of both ideas and people and all that shit. Once we settle the psyche defines those terms as fit and we fall continuously back to them until we replace them. The best way is to examine these facets of ourselves and dub them bad or stupid and exercise from being a piece of ourselves. Every time we notice them come up, point at it and say,”No”, that is not me and Im not doing it. We do label emotions and actions in our own psyche as good or bad and we have the power to change those labels. Once it is seen and felt all over as foreign and toxic, it will stop happening so often. The human mind and body is a system though, to remove something is to give it an opening. This is bad for if just left open then it will put stress on other parts of the system and the void will be filled with the same old bad habits or start hurting other parts of the mind.
So how do you want to feel? The answer is either unknown or too ambiguously awesome to define, currently. Pick a direction and pull from the ether in the not yet animated realm of ideas. While experience leads to wisdom, data leads to knowledge and you must have knowledge to convert it to wisdom. Do some reading, thinking and fantasizing. Who has what you want and how do they function. Take a handful of greats and look at their normal day to day lives and moral stand points. Then make up how you and them would interact. A friendship of depth and understanding develops personality behaviors and perspectives melding both people together and into a functional mix. What are the things you want to be able to do with this state of mind? Whom is doing those things and how do they work? Always feel free to imagine up a new you to make better the how you want to feel. With those questions and tangents of them defined, they must be put into play.
If you had that, how would you feel? That question and answer will run out a full fledged plan on how to begin the journey into understanding the end goal and the full script of your biggest dreams. Without examining the whole thing, there is not a real answer nor plan. Aimlessly traveling will take one in circles and to past mistakes. Walk out the full implications of how you want to feel for what actions you would take. When you do [insert activity] then you will feel like, what exactly? Figure out the actions that you think will define what you’re wanting to feel like and walk out in your mind how that end circumstance will affect you.
What defines how you want to be? For my, the people I am around have a strong influence on my giving a shit or not. When I worked in a place full of idiots and self-loathing ankle biters, it didn’t matter what we were doing. I did not want to be there. Changing my mindset had zero effect because I am highly reactive to whom I am around and that factor was unacceptable. What one does is more often the stronger factor, my social setting is a bit of an outlier. So what activities would define the better feels you’re going for? Is it the conversations you’re having which help make a day worth while in it’s definition and course? Figure these out and aim for the best way to express the mindset you desire in these so that they’re present and evident to support said mindset.
What we are afraid of is not something to be examined for sport, habit, importance or anything beyond measuring so that the opposite can be projected and cultivated. What we hate is the psyche’s way of saying STOP THAT SHIT AND DO SOMETHING ELSE. Without down there is no up and dark no light, good no bad, country no metal and so on. For every shitty thing we hate there is a well defined opposite. Whenever the mindset comes up about hating something, do not fixate on that thing. Look at at only long enough to see the black to its white and focus on that opposite. Use anger and sadness for mindset’s as purpose to understand the opposites as pulls into what you want.
Who we think about most is also a gigantic impact on our mindset. If we think about people we used to care about and have hurt us, it’s gunna hurt in many indirect ways. We will feel weak, insecure, and the idea of “can do” will fade out. If we think about people we admire and those who care about us. Most simply put, we become the people we surround ourselves with. And we can surround ourselves with people in our own minds who are not physically present. Pick good people to keep on the mind and if shitty folks keep coming up then they have conflict one must dismiss or figure out.
Stretch the mind, and remember that looking at things brings the tone of those things into the theme of your mindset if valued and not dismissed. Look at everything you know and love, or at least a bunch of those things. Think about the intellectual prowess of those you admire and then things you know to stretch in the direction of being mentally able and powerful. Refresh your mental browser with can-do’s of things you have done, are able to do, that people believe in you for, so that you can find a base to sit on and accept your own strength to create more. We become what we think about by bringing thoughts to more prominent points of influence in our mind, occurrent versus concurrent. Wanting is directing just as hating is directing because the word”not” doesn’t function in our brains. “Fuck steve, fuck steve, steve is a douche and I never want to see him again” is a whole lot of thinking about steve. I love robots, I want to go dancing, I enjoy drawing is a great way to manipulate the brain towards pulling in and focusing on threads at the story we want to jump into. IF we don’t decide how the brain shall work then it will work against us or in stagnating us.
Drive is finding a way to say I want to do this instead of I should do this. In every instance there is a desired outcome from the “should” statement and allowing that to be the focus and create a drive from that excitement or passion makes the movement natural and fun. If there is no want at the end of the should road then you shouldn’t do that shit. Something is important enough in that should causing you to want it. This is not a need for a need is only in place where there is a lack and though that counts as a push it is not a pure drive from the heart. What sounds cool, fun, innovative and great? If that question doesn’t flip the switch then what used to answer that question or how do those you admire and care about seem to answer it?
Creating the mindset we desire is easy but takes dedication for fruition. The deeper one is understood in it’s dynamics the better entered and created it can be. We do not need an even to change us into this state of mind as much as we need a full vision of this state of mind for it to come into play and the act of believing in it. Accepting and deciding we deserve it and that it can work is where believing in it starts to bring it from the idea box and out onto the racetracks. So ask more questions of your desired mindset, do not appeal to mystery and awe. What would it feel like when I get that amazing spaceship? How will I approach and respond to the hardest of challenges? The answers aren’t magical but free materia for us to put into patterns, open to creativity and highly receptive to being designed. What do we want as a goal and how do we get there, make that the mind set. Once you’ve made it up, fucking chill.
It is normal to fall back into what is familiar. We do what we have habituated ourselves to, not what is our best goal or option. This is why abused kids get into abusive relationships, homeostasis. To change this one must meditate and find comfort in the new mindset they desire and allow themselves to see that as normal before it becomes a new way to be.
