A natural state of being is whatever a person defines it to be. In American society, we value hard work, buying crap we don’t need because it moves the economy, fear of being attacked backed up with a need to be powerful and so defensive we’re offensive and invasive. This normal state of an individual’s emotionality is not happy but lack as seen here. It is one that needs to be force feeling strong or showing strength, producing something to be validated, acquiring objects to be seen as worthwhile. None of these are qualities of a healthy person. A choice a sound human being can make is that they are happy with who they themselves are and where they’re headed. From there, nothing else can touch their emotionality because only their opinion of themselves affects them until they decide others are allowed access to that privilege.
The human brain bullshits itself to think we have figured out things that we have not. My grandmother is 99 and explained that the way she’s lived so long is to deal with things and let them go then move on. Missing a beat leads to lingering, stagnating and draining mysterious emotions dragging on us. When one confronts an issue, whether it be in their own mind, themselves, on the street or on paper, there is a pragmatism which must be in control. How can one deal with this, where does one want to end up, and why or how is this effecting one? Many times we find ourselves in broken questions that turn to thought loops fueled by inappropriate emotional reactions. Diving into this shows that one is asking something that cannot be solved. Trying to “fix” a handicap person, or be the better person always, or make a depressed person happy are all examples that sound noble but actually are impossible and flawed. You can’t fix anyone, they’re goddamn fin. You cannot always be better because being better means there is always something better and doesn’t define worth but a momentary state of superiority that fleets always. Depressed people often don’t want to be happy or are chemically unable, leave them alone with your stupid and illogical needs. Reducing down one’s own emotional irritations to the situation that created it allows a person the option to see what they can do now and what they can put as a plan for the future and how to finalize that situation. One must take an action and allow themselves solace from it lingering, anything else is not completing it. There are often issues we cannot control or fix, right the. So put a date one it, I will fix blah in two weeks. Create the ability to let go of shit and move on. Do not bullshit yourself, you’re probably not dealing with something and its irking you. A free mind isn’t a bothered one.
However our goals and center are happy places. If we imagine the person we admire, love, and enjoy being, and it’s not us then it is a goal and we should get happy off the idea or else we’re not imagining right. The same with our goals, they should excite us and create passion. Everything we do should be moving us somehow towards the success of these things or they should be dismissed. Keep our highlights in mind and the anticipation will keep us going. That is the strongest chemical reaction in the brain, the wondering.
