This is for my best friend.
Everyone wants to be loved, celebrated, understood and seen as great… right? Because it is easy to give those kinds of admiration to people who will accept it and demonstrate such efforts. If a person wants to be wonderful and shows others they want praise for it, then it is enjoyable to tell them they’re doing or are great! But the real is that people aren’t honest with themselves so others can’t love you. If you think you want to be loved and well received but you present a person who is hated, by yourself, then nobody can love you. Self-critique is the only way to grow in a world so why not critique how you love yourself by looking at how others love you compared with how you are able to love those others. Again, it is easy to love a person who loves themselves and is open, seeking, loving who they are. It is a natural state of one who receives love. But when one is overly critical, they present a beaten and confused person. Their achievements, their knowledge, their skills mean nothing because their demeanor speaks amphitheaters. It says they suck and fuck off. It says Im mad and scared. It says something other than I love myself and am open to you caring about me. The ironic part is that the envy they may carry to those who are loved is displayed and call off to being loved. It is there instead of an acceptance to being loved.
Allowing others to care about you is a fuller step in emotional intelligence. It takes some deeper, some hurt, some brilliant people to say if they did love me, how would I act? How would I feel? Would I be OK with that? The silly and tiny step of wanting love,the final icing on the cake, is not understanding that someone has to work very very hard to love somebody who won’t accept their love. Examine yourself, critique your own critique and see if you would be OK with people loving you when you start to want them to. Sooo many greats block themselves from a great propulsion system of ideas, self, art, science and a fuller scope of life because they get lost in their critique. How or why is for them to decipher. But being loved is the goal and will help it progress. To not let yourself be loved is one of two majorly detrimental things; you are not recovered from trauma of some kind and are forcing yourself to relive that pain by recreating or maintaining it, or being loved is new to you and you won’t allow people to give to you because you don’t know how. Both are also an option but neither are acceptable. Let the world love you or you’re blinding yourself to how you present and what you allow to come into your life. Blocking love from coming to you is blocking all the best things, all the people who would care for you most and most intimately, all the propellants that could take you through hellfire and IRS paperwork and religious logic, all the feelings which have ripped crowns off Kings and brought people’s humanities out from the darkest and most mucked up of caves.
So ask the question. What would someone you could love look like, sound like, walk like, behave like and then after you have really thought about it, scrap all that. IF someone let you love them, how would that person feel like?
