Your brain is in your control. The thoughts and actions one makes are influenced by the emotions one has but all the same the emotions are not more powerful than the person they are inside of. That is impossible. We can change this as easily as we can decide pink is an awesome color or shitty color. Subjectivity, also means that we are in control.
The standard making you and breaking others is completely arbitrarily mandated. What level of merit you allocate to yourself depends on what PARTS of yourself you both think about and how you value them. Given a relative scale, you exist, for starters. Everything after not being dead is a plus in the grand scheme. You may not change the world, but you can take either route. However the point here is that it does not matter what your scale is but that you are in charge of where this scale’s fulcrum is. Something inside a person says that if we don’t hate, judge, criticize then bad shit will happen! In some dire circumstance this is true. But one can all a person great or bad then still do what that one caller needs to do to make their life successful REGARDLESS of what they deemed that other person. This can be seen as ego-stroking if you are too far invested in the”everything sucks” cloud of thought and that is a clearly idiotic and small minded version of this next mental trick. If you see yourself as great then the options that stem from that one seed are the steps of a great person. Idea’s stem ideas and ideas create emotions just as emotions create thoughts; but the whole time there is a person giving them the OK to exist and the rating of good or bad, wholly arbitrary and relative.
Learning from others rarely takes place if you think they’re a hunk of doodoo. Treating someone like they’re fantastically amazing creates the space to see what they have to say as good. The worth we attribute to a person’s utterances and actions is prefaced by what worth we allow them to have. This is how we fall in love, by making someone incredibly important to us. And that is a range that we are totally in control of as soon as we want to be.
Making yourself important; the critical process. The distance between allowing yourself space to be great inherently so you step, think, and breathe with importance to being able to critique yourself for being an idiot is a vital balancing act in creating real, measurable greatness. You can always just call yourself great and believe it. Knowing the feeling and attributing that to your personality does it immediately. Figuring out what you admire and enjoy then rolling out that carpet for yourself works too and is more towards the point. There must be sizing up of your own actions to go along with feeling great about yourself. This confuses most people because judgment and criticism are often assumed the same but they are not brethren. You get to love yourself if you chose to attribute that feeling to yourself. Then, critique can still be applied even when you’re a complete idiot and in love with yourself. That’s not a trick of action but getting past the difference of judgment and criticism while using the function of giving yourself worth.
