We think about the world in expectations and with certain paradigms. Creating the great ones, both realistic and highly productive, is not difficult. It’s just something people don’t do. Designing the scope on the world with consequences guesstimated towards a best outcomes involves examining what one wants, and how one is working in the world. It is pretty easy to assume you want everyone to like you and great things to fall your way. More finite combing reveals the obvious track work. Again, this is not hard. People just don’t do it very often or worse, do it and don’t fucking stick to it.
The prepping assumption and goal confidence is a must since presumptions on the world always exist anyways. First is the most important, how do you want to feel today? This will determine what you resist as far as distractions and personal attacks which are the strongest of messes. The Buddha teaches a very simple lesson about emotions being tangible and manageable in this route,”Remember a time when you were really happy. Remember and let yourself feel that way and be in that moment… get it, got it? Good, now remove the memory and keep the feeling.” and this is your easy and doable goal. It alleviates many mental disturbances and in so will feel wrong. Because if you have bi-polar, borderline, depression, ADHD, OCD, and any of the many others then it would state that this problem is bigger than your self control… and maybe it is. But maybe we’ve gotten so angry over that and thinking we have any control creates a massive tidal wave of guilt we subconsciously must dismiss so we don’t try it. How do you want to feel, just fucking aim for a star and don’t forget about it.
What do people think about you? It may sound self-centered but it is an active ingredient in everyone’s daily wtf-is-this-gunna-go-like soup. Most importantly is that most people don’t care. The assumption you make here is 95% for you. The next important part is that since people are 95% of the time concerned with themselves, you have a gigantic freedom here. Since folks judge on you current behavior and can’t see inside your soul, hear your thoughts, and don’t care about your past, you are privy to wing it as whoever you want right here and now. Finally, self-fulfilling prophecies make up the majority of social understandings. While a thousand great lines and great conversation topics will do you well to pick and serve the choice ones, body language and nonverbal communication make up 85% of how people judge you. All of that comes from what you think of yourself and a big piece of that is what you think people think of you. So assume you’re awesome and they’re your bestie?
The possibility of success can turn delusional real quick for the insanely egotistical psychopath… and luckily that is an insanely small piece of the population who fall into that category! And that fear keeps people from socially expressing the prowess of their own determination. People left to themselves are three times more likely to succeed at something they care about than when it happens socially. A few people excel in those situations, most get shy, self-conscious, worry instead of think, and anxiety wins the battle. This is why school is fucking awful. What if people believed they were going to figure out that big issue, find a way around traffic, jump the next hurdle? It is never that one expects the best will happen but that they stay determined to finish it. Commitment and resourcefulness, regardless the troubles. As long as one assumes, I got this, with the known back up plan to not fall off when shit inevitably catches on fire, then they will. Life isn’t lucky for some people and crappy for others to determine success from failure, for the most part, life has trained many to give up while others were conditioned to know they could win. Everybody can win, its not a competition with others it is a competition with determination and endgame. It never gets easier, we just get better at dealing with shitty things or we become complacent and life starts to suck a bunch. You will succeed!
What is coming your way? The answer is whatever you’re most closely paying attention to because there is so much around you that it is completely impossible with a human intellect to know everything you are really dealing with. One step at a time is how everything works, split-attention span is a myth and a great way to fuck yourself. So what you’re looking for does not magically or spiritually pull things towards you, unless you’re like a real wizard or have some divine charm that science hasn’t been able to prove anywhere else, but it directs you towards that. There are few thousand things going on in front of you every damn day and we can only process a few dozen. And which ever ones we focus on, spiral out onto more likewise. They also show behavior of confidence, commitment, interest, and add whatever you have in the bucket towards that path. So pick!!
What are you gunna be like today? Are the patterns of old going to outrun your powers of now? Will habits and gypsy circus curse ruin your one chance for true love? Well, self-fulling prophecies say yes! And so does assuming you’re gunna suck some more. Today you could be the greatest mofo out there! And why the hell not?
The old assholes are gunna keep pooping on you. Because people are not at all determined by how you treat them at all in anyway… If you’re gunna have grudges, make sure to wear them like crowns. The idea that being mad at someone will get anything done instead of direct confrontation or having a lovely day and letting it go is a farce held strong by an overwhelming percentage of people(idiots we are). Humans are largely socially deterministic beasts. Give them a high road and they will want to take it… resolution is nice but so is letting go of little things which hold us back. One person’s world is determined by the people they keep in it.
The big thing to remember about making positive assumptions and believing in it is to not shove your idea down the world’s throat or to get butthurt when it doesn’t come true. It is a cultivating theory on the world, one of patience and reaction finesse. Stick with it and roll with what comes up.
