There’s a sense that somebody might be offended or might prove us wrong which is haunting. The following uncertainty scathes and ravaging ones mindset and grasp on reality. Issue comes from feeding ambiguity and a laziness, lax nature about concluding thoughts correctly. Lots of shitty experiences can lead to this behavior and none of them matter in the face of fixing the motherfucker; yes, it is that bad.
There’s a silly jump to caring too much about others judgments. What somebody else thinks of me only matter because of what I think it means; all the hurt is in the individual’s power and they’re hurting themselves. Trusting your own judgment means creating a valued and reliable schema of evaluation. When doubt comes in, recall this, run it through again, and realize that’s all anyone else can have. The experience of doubt ruins a person’s confidence but this properly functioning truth evaluation function and its routinely high functioning is like a cleans and exercise. Give strength to integrity and keep in mind that truth doesn’t take a side.
Presuming someone else will be angry, hurt, or too emotional in some way from our decision is a similar malfunction and fix. If the thought is fully ordained by ones own integrity and one has a well functional critical analysis thought process then the real issue is that these other people are over emotional. Fuck them, life sucks but they’re making it suck more with their whining. As much as I personally love to empathize and help those in pain, it’s not a mark against logical thinking to piss off or offend people. By now means am I encouraging entitled thinking but I am saying a separation exists for those who worry too much or allow those who do that to be a fulcrum for their life. Again it comes down to having integrity to your own critical thinking and standing by and full engaging in complete thoughts.
The last spread of the spectrum is fear and doubt to your own thought processes worth. This can be refueled by laziness or not thinking things through.
