It is very easy to make up workmodels of the world which explain our traumas and angers. Them making sense instead of making us feel OK, is slightly more difficult. When they’re wrong the trauma doesn’t get properly understood nor does it get proper attention to make sense to the recovery and fixing from said pain. Changing these definitions one believes the world obeys creates a world where one can succeed in more fluidly and find less resistance because it’s an accurate depiction of reality. There are always new ways of looking at how the world works. Some of these are shitty and restricting and some are helpful and encouraging. The decision to design one’s world to be realistic and progressive for themselves rather than resentful, founded on trauma, and restricting is a smart one which a person can at any time decide to make.
To give some examples of concurrent thoughts which restrict a person I will go into the topics of love and money. First I will outline common detrimental believes on the topic then move into the absolutist view on the topic and switch sides so a pragmatic definition can be formed and its positive effects show evident.
Money is something that does not flow logically with hard work, intelligence, or being a good person. Money is something that flows with right time, right place, and to the weathers of economy, politics, and society; none of which are logical. They are systems and systems have patterns and are something people make so they are something people can understand. I grew up with parents who were raised poor so I grew up resenting rich people. There was often heard the excuse,”well if I had that kind of money like____ did then blah blah blah”. There is also a blaming the way the country is going or how the government is running something then the most common excuse people have is to blame their boss or company they work for. This is all escapism and incorrect. The reason one does not have money is because one planned poorly so they are now “poor”. Certain systems are currently making money and others are not. To not plan for this is childish IF money is important to you. Viewing money as being distributed unfairly and to some select few as if by magic and a big government or cheating super-group creates a mindset of loss, defeat, victimization, and most importantly the inability to win. There is always going to be someone with more money than you, welcome to Earth where we have nearly eight billion people; get the fuck over it and do not be bothered by others having more. If we see the system as something to be understood and played, then we have created a game where we can win. And that is all economy ever is. Some jobs are doing well and the economy will pan out well for them. Invest there. Certain types of jobs and corporations will want you to work for crap and tell you its good when you know you’re broke and it sucks. There are good jobs out there, its just like treasure hunting except that it exists. The loudest voices are often the dumbest ones who’re trying to defend their idiocy. The wealthy voices are busy making money and living their lives so they don’t have time to complain. Looking at money as a garden to grow with seasons and plants that are predictable and bountiful when tended correctly allows a person the walk to have lots of money and have fun while getting there.
Love is a strange concept where as people define it as what is familiar and prefer mysticism than functionality. Oscar Wilde says that love must always have some mystery to it, something of a new world where as a person can get lost in a place they’ve never been and their lover can guide them through. While I can’t and won’t argue with Oscar, there is still another important note about romance. That is that it exists and is deserved for everyone. People with bad experience and bountied with shitty examples in their life often don’t see a positive option. The simple answer to this is to define one. We run into tons of people and if we aren’t looking for the right person, they can walk right the fuck by. Understanding that allowing yourself to be open to falling in love and that you deserve to be treated right because you’re worth it is the key. You must know to some degree what you want out of a person and then look for it while being open to finding it instead of stringent. Open your head and believe in the possibility after some good thought, not too much so it’s a perfectionist ideal, and you will find love. Believe it or be sure you’re jinxed yourself.
There much smaller and more simple concept to use as well. Imagine taking a test or shooting a basketball. What if the test wanted you to get the answer right? What if shooting the basketball was supposed to be fun? So many people think that tests are out to get them. That the ball doesn’t want to fall for them and that they simply aren’t good enough for some reason. This goes into materialism versus behaviorism. A person is only what they do. What they are is evident in their actions. Believing you simply aren’t an A student or can shoot a ball well is a belief. Believing in strong actions for the self is the key here. And there is no a real right or wrong belief for shooting or tests, its up to how you define it.
So tell the better story for the ending you want.
Entering God-mode is a bigger mental concept with the same small steps forward. To see one’ self as a peon is to only allow one’s self to make peon moves in life and recognize peon choices. The same is true if you see yourself as an emperor. Furthermore, there are emotions, expectations, pursuits, and mental functions which gods use and which peons use. We have all been in a state of awe, of complete doubtlessness and passion. That is the state that gods exist in. For purpose of this mental function, a god is just a being doing what gods do; behaviorism in the highest action possible. Thinking through the memories, images, and about the future that surround that mindset is how one enters god-mode. Creating mental functions that propel one forward while being highly and precisely critical is how one maintains it. Believing you deserve it, is how one stays in it or is able to return under duress. The world is on your side, they may not know it yet. Things are going great for you, and if they’re not it is only a drop in the story waiting for you to start that come-up. There is always a way to look at the world as though its going great for you. Remember that strife creates strength in personality and only the best are given the chance to learn the hardest of lessons. Believe you are that great, the world needs you to.
