We all have to do work to get some place we know fun is. There is a stairway to heaven and that means walking up a lot of boring steps. This is inevitable. Yet many people find themselves walking up the slide and bitching the whole way up. Perspective is everything, ask a high priced lawyer. If one can frame the story differently then one can create a different emotional appeal and drive for the situation. OUr world is what we make it. Being alive and driving towards one’s goals lays reason always enough to make a fun situation. However, it is entirely possible to find one’s self pushing a crap boat up shit creek… feel empowered in yourself to stop doing stupid things.
Letting shit talk sit around creates depression and makes life mold. When we have complaints, examine them! Bitchy conversations reveal that a person has not or will not critically analyze problems in their life before they will talk about them and look for help or comfort elsewhere. It creates a persona who doesn’t solve problems. Even if one doesn’t see themselves that way, acting like so creates the atmosphere around them and the world responds to their behavior. when complaints are spoken, it’s a like a weak spell against yourself. An unfinished problem, an unclean wound left to fester. If its crap, deal with it. Decide a way to figure out the problem or allocate a time when it will be dealt with. Do not let it sit or be half-assedly addressed. Create a you who is in their world, not a you who creates a shitty world and allows it to stay shit.
Imaging the world as a good place is not hard but creative challenges. For example, my first year of college I was out of physical rehab from a car accident that should have killed me and I was always tired. It was not so that my body needed rest but that I was in the habit of sleeping until 4 because I had needed the sleep for recovery. So I pretended that high noon was like my favorite Japanese Anime, Trigun. Suddenly instead of being irritable and sleepy, I was a badass and in the mood of a scify western. This is what I mean, change the way you view the scene to which you feel held back and at odds into a situation you can feel is cool and exciting. Swap the mood of a bad part of life with the mood of a cool part of something else that is somehow similar then live through that mood.
When a situation is reduced down to its core events, life becomes extremely simple. We have the physical actions, the words to say, the factors involved, and the step by step plan. The emotions involved and the vibe are pieces which can be reduced away when stripping things down to simplicity. For this truth one must realize that they can also move around the vibe and mood of things just by thinking about them. Remember the happiest memory you have. For me, it was at a festival where I met a ton of cool people, proposed to an international model going to Columbia, and was treated with a ton of cool art and music while my friends grew as people; just blissful and outstanding in every direction. Remember yours, and now once we get into it the feelings there returns in our heads.
