Is it natural to just react to whatever seems and feels biggest and best at any given moment or do we plan ourselves out and then walk that plan into action? Without a goal in mind, we’re reduced to purely the end result of our nature and nurturing. The whole freewill and imagination parts of being real humans is forgotten. Da Vinci and Descartes will roll over in their graves. We must create our personalities or throw Millenia of culture to the wolves and live like them. We get to decide who are as we can change. There is a line between being materialists and behaviorists in personalities. People can change and you is people.
One problem I see in my life is that people try too hard to be something and forget to be that thing. Like someone dressing or stretching or practicing their lines when the show is already going so they miss their part. When we obsess over who we are trying to be or convinced we’re supposed to be, we miss out on the literal experience of how we feel and that new circumstance where we would grow into something. This can be an insecurity or an absent-mindedness. Narrative theory explains how humans tell their lives as stories and since everything has a frame of reference, they(we) choose one. Being too caught up in making one’s own character a right fit to a predesigned ideal gets in the way of behavior which fits the real world and chances to run instead of intermissions to retell. This is how an aim can blind and does steal a story from the main character.
