Blame is a conduit of silly bullshit that begets more of the road the engine wishes to escape. And we blame others only because we have created too much blame to handle for ourselves. However, to truly understand the blame we must break it down. This reveals both that it came from our own self-loathing, unrealistic standards, and a lack of redirection for growth. Anytime one feels loathsome, of others or the self, is a time of guilt which needs be at most a single moment. For once that is understood, the mind can create a venue of creation and improvement. If this is not done, its waging a war against yourself. And that is just fucking stupid.
Here I am assuming that the mind is more powerful than the brain, neurochemical patterns of thought, emotion, learned behaviors. This is because it is. Natural and easier though falling into autopilot may be, its fucking terrible for the mind, the consciousness, you. One can grab the anger and any other emotion being experienced and weigh it for its worth without becoming victim to it. The feelings that grab you are there but you have the freedom always, to decide to control your own thoughts and change your actions. Call it as you see fit, not as you feel fit.
High strung people continually beat the hell out of themselves because of high expectations, disgust at the concept of help and pervading need for challenge. All of these are stupid and I will tell you why with better ways to better one’s self. If you trying to challenge yourself, stop that shit. Start trying to advance yourself as far and as happy and as fantastic as you can imagine. The challenge will present itself. There is a kid at my place of current work who tries to carry two pikes at once and hand them off in a very dangerous but the only presentable fashion. This is challenging but it does not help him in any way. He could do that simple job the simple way and take on better tasks to find more acute and improving challenges in his life. Having high expectations has similar issue in that we can only create high expectations in an idea we already understand and fully grasp or are inaccurately grasping and generalizing. If something is truly new then it is challenging because it is new. Doing something old the hard way is self-sabotage. This doesn’t make you better, maybe slightly more precise, it makes you stupider as you are trying to do a fancy knot with your stupid shoe laces instead of riding the awesome skateboard on the space station space park. Try something new, that is challenging. Don’t do something old and make it harder on yourself, that is dumb. We can only make something more difficult if we already understand it, so we can only make something harder if it is not already hard. And if its easy, we are good at it and there is space for improvement on newer things. Disgust at the concept of help runs under similar scrutiny but much faster and more irately. It brings out a sense of pride but not actual pride. One finds a sense of accomplishment in that which they have conquered and the idea of needed pride is a created lack of pride. You cannot have a lack of accomplishment for it is an addition, an accolade. If help is available, take the damn help because it makes things easier. If help is available then it is worth taking and beating the thing faster. Pride will come at the end of a great deed, not hurting yourself to prove you can. That is a stupid, over-lived fallacy of manliness that is hurting anyone who practices it.
