It is a regular habit of a beaten dog, an abused spouse, an impoverished fiend to jump at the quickest means. So normal is it that they would enjoy being hurt again because it includes some small satisfaction instead of try and look for something better. It is normal because their beatings have socialized them, brainwashed then, told them that is the best they deserve and looking for more is questioning a higher power. Higher powers do nothing but hurt when questioned in the eyes of the abused. It is not in the mindset nor the ability of someone beaten to ask or look for more. So do that to prove and create the status of not being a victim. It’s a sideways step to get around, which feels awkward at first but is only different and not at all bad.
The key in asking for more is looking and adjusting what you believe you deserve. Looking is the easier one but more detailed in technique. It takes changing a social approach to find new options than one is used to having. It takes going somewhere new and saying something different. It takes playing a new role in the world so you can see a different set of options. Normally it takes more dedication as far as time and a slightly adjusted process of viewing the world. This means change your google search topics, the people you hang out with(or follow online), putting more time into your research and changing the places you end up then finally and most importantly asking new and different questions. All of this must be done along with having the proper mental headset to allow yourself directed focus in these changes.
Asking for more means saying I deserve more then believing it and many people have problems with that. Many people see it as greedy or they resent the rich or they feel they’re hurting people who have less. The world is an abundance and nothing ppl are going to do is going to change that. How others live their own lives is not your fucking problem or responsibility to fit in scale to. Accept that and let go of the idea that you having more while others have less is nearing complete bullshit. You are entitled to the whole world because you exist, this is both yours to own and yours to maintain. Any other sense of the world begets some strange socialized outlook of a demeaned being and lessers or betters that is immature and painfully arbitrary in an elitist strain of idiocy bearing no place in the mind of a civilized nor logically functioning mind. You deserve what you go and fucking get. The world belongs to everyone. All that really changes what one has or does is what one goes to claim. Of course what we go and call out as ours reflects what we think we ought to have. This comes to a real picture when one looks at some lifespan psychology that being how everything is going to turn out as the pattern continues when compared to using the philosophy of what I’ve just spout with the dreams one would enjoy. Do you want a boat, a job that’s amazing, some talents that kick ass and are really fun, amazing adventures? Of course you fucking do and you deserve them, accept that so you can go and claim them.
The final step is combining the anticipation aspect of believing you’re worth the whole world with not giving into a fearful ideal that you must rush to safety. We live in a society run by fear. In advertising and politics the appeal to fear is thick. We get scared so we buy stuff and do whatever is most accessible and easiest to suit our needs, calm our yellow bellies. Nothing is ever as scary as it seems. Danger is measurable where the mind screams run because imagining it is the end of the world is more motivating for survival then the real danger. It is an evolutionary tactic which has no place remaining in such power of us in a civilized age or a life without lions and starvation being a daily fret. Next is anticipating the best thing which is actually both looking for it and creating an excitement for it so the good stuff comes our way. Anticipation is different than expectation in practice and time frame because they both are similar but one seeks while the latter sits then gets pissy when it isn’t met. Believe you are getting great things, imagine them coming at you for sure and go seek them out! Make sure to look in new places because they’re new things!
