Its natural to create a social group which preserves ourselves because we go to where we are liked and what likes us comes to us. The best for us may be different from either of those and our social pillow may be keeping us asleep instead of assisting…

Trying to please others, charm the in-crowd, get the best job to show off is the wrong way to get attention. The best way to get people to like you is to like yourself. They will follow…

This is a world of so many options and freedoms. We live in a tiny spec of the possibilities for our lives. Yet the people who are tiny are not there because the world is out to get them but because they feel so and ask for not enough. Really, ask for more and let it come instead of fighting the lack…

We are not controlled by emotions even if they make things feel true, right, evil, bad, magical, or what have you. Emotions are part of our brain, they are chemicals, they which flow, but they are not made of reason nor ever in charge until the mind makes or lets them take hold…

Relationships are always messy. They spill over into everything… love is complicated and so is sex and so is love without sex. And then we get to learn how we feel and react in one when we had nothing planned, yet we were already prepared to get mad over stupid shit or really excited and used without any forethought. This is why a mature person looks into themselves and finds their expectation then makes adult decisions on what to do with them….

We become defined to ourselves differently than the definitions those around us would give us. The easiest way to realize immediacy and accuracy is give credence to the immediate. In relationships and jobs, things are expected of you. While the big picture is important…