Without being able to toss aside stupid comments but keep the friends or folks who made them one will find themselves emotionally overreacting and misjudging people nearly constantly. Everyone says dumb shit; it’s actually my favorite past time. The skill of dismissing foolish things while not feeling socially bound by doing so nor by socially blacklisting yourself or others is some tact that must be present in an appropriate approach to a new world. Nobody is always dumb or always bright and everyone is free to change.
Being hurtful to others is a sign of insecurity demonstrated in a silent or loud rage outwardly because it is boiling inwardly. To insult idiots is a very low form of insecurity and a deep, pathetic exercise of inadequacy. It is extremely petty to not give shit in a proper manner but to dish it out on a regular basis; that is what being full of shit can refer to. There is also the sickness of being indirectly hurtful to stupid people by ignoring them or allowing them to waste away in mistakes one could solve quite simply. Noticing and accepting this creates a world, a setting of a person’s personal narrative where destitute empires grow and mental poverty knows prosperity. That may not immediately or directly damage a person but they will feel sickly, self-loathing and live in a world they feel helpless and pitiful in. Solving or assisting in the errors of one’s fellow man create scenes in one’s personal narrative holding a person higher.
Being too nice to people displays fear of repeating trauma. Accurate criticism is essential for all relationships and growth. To not properly address a problem because of one’s unrealistic fear or totally likely assumption that someone will get hurt over pointing out flaw is promoting and accepting idiocy or mediocracy. Being nice is not the antithesis of being too mean but possibly a worse problem leading to being socially downgraded and intellectually as well as personally dampened. One must accurately identify and correct the stupid things. This can also lead to avoiding hard work because one will grow to resent idiots as they do not address the stupid things one does but allows them to continue. Thusly seeing the difficult work idiots normally occupy themselves with as silly and petty instead of seeing it clearly.
Getting caught up in nice or mean is a matter of ego involvement rather than intellectual activity. When one must actively feel bigger and be mean, they are shielding their own weakness instead of examining it; most often with guise of how stupid the world is or in the spirit of not falling in with idiots, and that is baloney. Being too stuck in niceties regularly comes from a fear of hurting or being too mean, then again obsessing on the ego and social involvement instead of being intellectually active, aware and critical. Let go of your own involvement and get into the idea at hand.
Moving on means allowing yourself to disassociate a person’s actions from the person themselves. If a smart man told you that cheese was made of turtle dancers, you would never know him to be a smart man in you presumed that to speak of his character. Alternatively, generalizing his character from one statement would make you not a smart man. The key is to criticize the words and be kind to the speaker then move forward towards intellectually precision as a whole and without being dismissive socially but being critical of the content, the words, and being kind to the speaker. This comes across in the mannerism of elitism displayed from the manner of elitism assumed. When one assumes they know more, they will give off these signs. If one assumes,”that was dumb, lets go forward” rather than ” they are dumb, I’m moving forward” they create a respectable standpoint. That is the goal.
