One of the biggest issues facing folks overcoming depression and trauma is that being traumatized often causes folks to fantasize success. In reality, success is always difficult. Just getting past intense downs is a huge step but it is not a space station. Grasping this concept is key to overcoming such downs without falling back into a toxic and stagnant mindset. Get out of hell, then its a new battle building your starship. Failing on that doesn’t mean you’re on fire again… unless you believe it hard enough.
When we get past how hard it has been to stop staring at the hurt or trying to fix the past, an impossible endeavor, we do find ourselves hating those who have succeeded and us in their shoes. When a person calls those who have it off well as bad, then it makes their suffering make sense. That is a defensive technique to rationalize pain and call happy people crazy. This is very stupid and restricts one from being happy as well as booby-trapping growth with confusion. Don’t fucking do that, admit people are happier or wealthier or more charming or more intelligent than you are NOW because you can grow better and bigger. In accepting this one becomes present and pragmatic rather than actively ignorant and stagnantly defensive.
It is highly important to recognize this for the move past pain into happiness and freedom as well as those who have slipped on their journey. The moment one calls happy insane and pain normal does the stairway to heaven turn into a lubed up slide. As we advance and get past our traumas, pains, weaknesses, and confusion will this come up. Don’t call it unfair or impossible. If the journey were cake then we wouldn’t take it. Conscious beings want to advance not play the same crap game endlessly.
