Emotions are not in charge of a person but a piece of them, an evolutionary tool to assist. Our emotions exist not to punish or reward but to qualify the worth of certain actions. Obviously, they’re not full proof in the case of drug addiction or overpowering rage but for the over all part they are the best advice as to one’s state of being. Too often is it seen in this day and age that “negative” emotions are bad and should be stopped or pushed away; this is fucking silly. There are no such things as negative emotions just signs of what’s going on in one’s life. Emotions also work in a relative time scale. That is while they can only react to the past they are in no means a way of suffering by focusing on the past but a lesson so that one can learn and change the future. Staring at a past event is stagnating and a dyslexic way of reading one’s self. Do not let a past event get you down, plan a better one for the future. This is the point of being hurt, though the emotion may persist you have completed the problem at hand and are not defeated. Shake it off; seriously, that’s a natural human way of getting proper chemicals flowing and we’re socialized against it.
There is timeliness to being angry, sad, depressed, vengeful, and loathing. Anger is for one to feel more powerful so they can overcome a weakness. Sadness is to identify an improper action so that one can learn to do very differently and create a proper situation that they will enjoy. All of these emotions labeled negative have to do with unmet expectations. We make our expectations and can change them at a whim if we so decide. Granted, that takes changes paradigms, premises and values we have and that may be just what needs to be done for some drastic needed fix. It is not always the best option but it is an important option. The important piece here is that time is on your side and the past is over. Feeling bad, wallowing in an emotion can have it’s benefits but overall that usually is missing the point of a naturally occurring alarm. Feeling bad is the mind’s way of saying ,”do this different next time”. The best way to reconcile this emotion is to plan out in depth and active effectiveness how to be and do differently. That’s the mature and fully actualized way to react to stagnating emotions.
Feeling bad is silly if you don’t want to. Not deciding how you want to feel is driving blind as a human. Emotions are part of you, not an outside uncontrollable force.
