Catastrophizing life is stupid! And there must be a sense of balance to things, all things. The issue here is not logic but practice, habit and drive. Really sad and really exciting, overall the strongest stimulations take hold and once a person is used to those very little else seems important. This why many trauma victims fall into this personal persuasion. As it goes though, you can’t walk before you crawl and you can’t fly before you run. You have to be crap before you can be OK and then so on to good, great, amazing. Each step deserves its attention and worth. Skipping steps makes you full of holes and they will catch up to you. This theory is sound but in application is gets more dicey so here are the main areas addressed.
Emotional extremist is highly detrimental, although really sexy, for it makes one a glass cannon and often a complete wreck for much of their. They won’t move until something is incredibly motivating so they rob themselves the chance. Nobody is going to give a shot to someone doing nothing, they have to do well at the simple and sort of hard things before the end bosses present themselves or people allow that part to be seen. It is a level of maturity in recognizing that your emotions do not control you but you control your emotions. When one is just not used to this, they must walk through the smaller concepts in their mind and give them worth before they even have a shot at completing them efficiently. Giving worth to this can be difficult as a natural feeling of superiority comes about a person being so intense all the time. Smaller and lesser emotional grips are seen less important SINCE they are drawn by the level of emotional pull. This is the reoccurring theme with this lesson. One must create and give worth in the small steps and get over their addiction to the highs as they’re consistent. Watch movies, read books, look at your family and friends or strangers and see that each movement they make has emotion. The harder it is to see, the better to look at. There’s worth in tying your shoes and making breakfast just as getting stabbed and winning the super bowl. Recognizing these in others helps vindicate yourself giving each step importance. And they all do even though you’ve been high as heaven’s gate or lower than Davy Jone’s locker. The worth is what you say it is, the chemicals in your head aren’t in control of you.
No goal can be scored until you can dribble, get around the defenders, tie your shoes, get a ride to the game, wipe your butt after you use the potty, put a tampon in, use your turn signal and all that jazz. There are steps between the big and the thinking of it. The trick is again to recognize each step involved as important. What I advice is to see the final as a whole picture and give each step that same worth. If its one story then the book’s great, not just the last chapter. The battle of Hogwarts is the last chapter in the Harry Potter series and it really isn’t very good if you don’t know the characters, the backstory of the castle, why it’s being attacked, what it means and every little nuance about the tale. Each piece is just as important even though not as exciting in themselves. See your zeppelin ride as grand and magical but getting a job in a fabric store may be the first step towards it and without that first step, the journey will never fruit. Respect that contingency to respect the little steps.
Having expectations is impossible to avoid and easy to mess up. Creating a high expectation is the best way to allow yourself a perception and path towards getting and doing the best things in this life. But having high expectations and beating ourselves up is a sad and normal trip. There lays no logic in this, for there must be baby steps and places in the between. Never mix up the steps in the between as accepting lower but be comfortable with them and hold that high goal as your wind. The trick is to be able to let go of needing smaller between steps but not beating yourself up when they happen because they are often necessary and obsessing on them stops you from creating better bigger steps.
Accepting your beginnings as stupid and writing a logical standard. It takes admitting that much of the anger which makes you feel powerful is silly and wrong. There is a simple understanding that there is a progression from shitty to mediocre to Ok then good and great and maybe, if possible, perfect. Noticing yourself advance through these steps after you realize that your starting points were all childish and ignorant responses is a great medicine. Use that a grounding plan when this perfectionism comes again to blast you. You can do it and there is no such thing as perfect because everything is relative. Good and bad need each other to exist and your point in between or calling of either is simply arbitrary. Good enough is only decided by you or your perception of what others have said is. All that is within you.
