The dating world is a dangerous place because romance is powerful and with great power comes great responsibility. We find ourselves blaming people and getting hurt by people or doing things in a rush of emotion and that has a high chance of some stupid shit blowing up in our face. This is a run through of how to slow down, plan for human idiocy, and to double check words from lovers or haters in relevance to fact instead of making them divine on a dime when they’re senseless. Remember, people are dumb and emotions make us think we’re not. Slow down but still love strong.
A person’s importance comes from what they define. The worry and failure of this class is being aimless and jumping to herd behavior and the most sensational thing out there. This how people cheat on their wives or crash their cars, they’re not paying attention and in that lack of direction they jump to conclusions which seem the loudest and the most impressive. Nobody is actually impressed by these things, they’re simply the easiest and most quick to spread. Answering to one’s self here is the key. It takes letting go of everyone else’s opinion, probably pissing off a few people and being OK with that, and trusting yourself to have answers when you dive deep inside and create your sure values.
Reducing down criticism to the end points finds improvement. Make sure to use this scope when relying on criticisms, is this productive and progressive? Finding error is great for clearing out problems or unnecessary clutter and then improving. Finding error without improvement is creating a perspective and atmosphere of hate and disappointment. Without these notes of growth from criticism, one is purely spewing negativity and anger; we are what we create. To make a better world and be brave, challenging the face of evil and battling the edge of evil by pushing the boundaries farther with creative zeal and mental fortitude a person must be good by creating good. Creativity is the key. Create what you want, decide how you want to feel, and pick at evil only to create good.
A great metaphor is to see opinions as food. Some food sucks. Some food is delicious and still sucks. Noticing what is worthwhile to eat takes examination and you never have to eat everything. It is polite to accept that others have food, offer you food, and are enjoying their own food(which may be foul) but one never has to ingest others food unless they decide it themselves. You are what you eat just as you are what you create.
Seeking to get criticism instead of make criticisms creates a strong being. Discovering one’s ignorances and being open to other’s disapproval establishes a mental state of growth and acceptance. Only in this state of mind can one be free of fear as they are seeking what the normal man seeks to escape. Pain is temporary and hurt is relative but growth is objective and measurably the best. Seeking criticism without improvement is self-destructive though. Always return to the growth drawing board and allow yourself the freedom to not swallow poor opinions.
Where a person seeks approval, validation from is actually always themselves. Even if it seems like another person has what we want and is in charge of our feelings, we gave them that right. Nobody is really in charge of your own thoughts and feelings, that is a trick of fear and sloth. Remember that truth exists outside the messenger, delivery, and atmosphere it came with. This goes with court, romance, drugs, adventure, school, sex and all the really exciting places. Give the content its own stage and re-evaluate it after due time and separation has occurred.
