Nothing is big until you believe and feel it is big. There’s not an unbiased objective way to call something a huge deal to all perspectives. Absurdism explains that nothing is important until a person names it so, because nothing really matters and humans are bias otherwise; it’s in our nature to be dramatic and obsessive so we feel important and survive. Realizing this is both a philosophical freedom and a zen peace with the world. Even the golden rule ,”do onto others as you would have done unto you” is highly in one’s self-interest and usually runs from pain, the ultimate example in melodrama and counter to full freedom. The only real law is entropy, things have reactions but not a real order. The only real restriction is , as Captain Jack Sparrow says,”what a man can do, and what a man can’t do”.
What do you want? Setting goals of both actions you’d like and the values you’d like apparent and upheld in your person help minimize many problems and tiny, silly issues. Say a book you’d like to read, a success person you’d like to emulate, and a great adventure you think sounds awesome. Now plan that the hell out, don’t do it right away cause that’s a good way to fail instantly and blacklist the simplifying bullshit plan; just figure out how it has been done before by others and what you’d need to get it done. Keeping exciting goals you feel passionate about helps minimize the size of importance that is left for things to feel dramatic.
Catastrophizing things is funny and habitual because it makes you feel high and life seem important. One of the detriments is it kills clear perspective and aims a mind at hell. Looking at scary things and remembering they only matter because of how big a person makes them, lets you minimize things. IN the grand scheme of life, will this really be a big deal? In your highest moments, making love to someone you adore, slaying an evil dragon, starting your giant business to save kittens and stop cancer, will this really hurt that bad? No, and you’re always bigger than this bullshit. Purely on the criterion that its in your life and needs you, to make it matter; your will is maximum ichoban importanto.
The harder it is to dismiss something, without a care and without deep explanation, the more that thing has control over you. This is literally the measurable distance a machine a person invented is moving them away from their own control; an irony in freedom and reality. The future is unwritten and free where as the past is dead, gone but will always try to dictate the now and coming by being louder than its worth. A person has at all times the freedom to shift themselves and their future and only their own believed and acted upon allegiance can change that. You can instantly dismiss something, you can, and you can and its only the wasted timed and past events one feels they’ve invested or self they’ve become keeping them from doing so. Act for the future best you not for the past you’s face value.
Project, imagine, create, some good future head-flics. Bullshit’s strength comes from a person internalizing their own theme as one which includes pain and failure. Make it a practice after every meal and when shitty things come up, that way it is both a defense and a strong plan. People become what they think about most so think about things you like and admire. Do not ruminate or get stuck on a shitty subject. That is where bullshit makes itself seem bigger because one invests so much time in it. Thats the sunken cost fallacy, where one assumes something is important because they have been on it for an elongated period of time.
Realizing that strong negative themes in one’s life are often because of an excess on unaddressed anger and sorrow. Anger is powerful and great when used properly. Sorrow is nothing but hurt one hasn’t mended. If bullshit continually appears and overwhelms you, then go back through your history and look at when you feel slighted, cheated, wronged, or that you fucked up. Give yourself a day or an hour to grieve because you deserve that. Trauma not dealt with comes out in many other and unrealistic but surely damaging ways. It is very healthy to cry and incredibly important
Count yourself as lucky and powerful then say its continuing and you deserve it. Say this, and think it through for a couple minutes until tons of bullshit pops up and calls you a liar. Once the problem has shown its face tell it go fuck off and keep believing the first phrase. Life is never that complicated, everything is one step at a time, and its pretty much all been done before. Getting worked up over something makes more shitty somethings and is then worse than the problem itself. You’re doing great, and you’re gunna do more great; that’s your center and fuck anything that says otherwise.
