Personality flaws are funny and they bring us together. They make us relatable and unbearable. But when you find a deep seated one of your own, then what? The way Dr Phil and the whole new insurgence of popular psychology this day has it sold, we just need to fix ourselves. And that is a horrible way to go about it as well as being incredibly flawed in its answer and path. The prognosis misses some huge points and details.
First of all, human flaws make us who we are. So to be ashamed of them is absolutely stupid because we would then have to be ashamed of our whole lives. And why? For not being perfect? For failing or making the wrong decisions under a lack of information. One of the biggest secrets in life is allowing each and every moment to be perfect so that we can accept and love it, for then we expressing our greatest power and that action of loving and acknowledging makes us the sort of person who will receive the most out of life. To wish we could go back and do it differently is both wasting the current moments and insulting someone who did not know any better and could not have.
We must accept our past before we can grow to the future otherwise the tail is dictating the dog’s path.
I have recently figured out a large issue in my life and where it originated. My first reaction is to want to change everything and be very very angry. But that is silly and over emotional, defensive not action oriented or pragmatic. Its like an improvement. Now my car has wings. If it had wings last week, I could have flown over this gorgeous cliff and chased the good year blimp! So what… because the past and the imagination always come second to what can be done now. And that is my main point. What can be done now is always the most important step.
I have learned something very personal to my aspirations and where a block in my life was first created. It continued and has been a theme in my life but all the same, now is the holiest of times. Filled with regret and anger is my heart! I want to blame… but again I have now and I am free because I know of it. I can figure it out. Without accepting my past as being fine though, I would not be able to have learned this. It is counter productive the psyche for it calls all action flawed and hurts so bad in such a detrimental way that a mind which would not be alright seeing and accepting its flaws as part of a personality rather than an unworthy and unacceptable mistake COULD NOT SEE IT. Perception is that biased.
So we must accept that we have failed but that failure was perfect in its moment if we truly want to be able to learn from our lives. No story is every perfect and there is no real expectation one must fit, just a life one gets to live. This existence thing is a chance, not a burden. Open your perception and it will spiral further and further out.
